Ecstatic Life

Navigating Abandonment & Healing the Mother Wound: Monthly Q&A Session

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If you're ready to heal your nervous system, reconnect with yourself, and create a life that feels deeply aligned, I'd love to invite you into the Ecstatic Life Academy (ELA).

Inside ELA, I guide women through weekly live ecstatic dances, embodiment practices, guided meditations, and meaningful conversations designed to help you regulate your nervous system, reconnect with your true essence, and build a life you genuinely love. Healing is so much easier when you don't have to do it alone.

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Monthly Q&A: Healing the Mother Wound While Becoming a Mother

I'm so excited to introduce something new to the podcast—my monthly Q&A series! Each month, I'll be answering questions submitted by this incredible community, diving into the topics that matter most to you.

This month's question is one that touched me deeply:

"How do you deal with a severed relationship with your own mother while trying to navigate motherhood? I'm adopted, so there are many layers of feeling abandoned."

To explore this tender topic, I'm joined once again by my dear friend, Cassandra "Cris" Stephens.

We discuss why this kind of pain isn't something you simply "get over," but something you learn to grieve with compassion. We explore the difference between healing and spiritual bypassing, why forgiveness should never be forced, and how giving yourself permission to fully feel your grief is often the beginning of true healing.

We also dive into what re-parenting really means. For me, it's less about becoming your own parent and more about rebuilding trust with yourself—learning to meet your own needs with kindness, consistency, and compassion. We explore how unresolved trauma can keep us stuck looking outside ourselves for answers, and how reclaiming our personal power allows us to begin creating a different story for ourselves and for our children.

Of course, we also share practical tools that have been transformational in our own healing journeys. From EFT tapping and breathwork to yoga, Internal Family Systems (IFS), family constellations, grounding practices, mindfulness, and ecstatic dance, we talk about how somatic healing helps us increase our capacity to be with difficult emotions instead of running from them.

Whether your relationship with your mother is strained, complicated, nonexistent, or simply not what you wish it had been, I hope this conversation reminds you that your grief is valid, your healing is possible, and you are not alone.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why motherhood often reopens childhood wounds.

• The unique grief that can accompany abandonment and mother wounds.

• Giving yourself permission to grieve instead of trying to "move on."

• The difference between healing and spiritual bypassing.

• Why forgiveness cannot be forced.

• Re-parenting as rebuilding trust with yourself.

• Moving from externalization to empowerment.

• Somatic practices for processing grief and trauma.

• How nervous system regulation supports emotional healing.

• The healing power of community and chosen family.

Resources Mentioned

• Calling Home by Whitney Goodman

• The Family Cyclebreakers Club

• EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)

• Internal Family Systems (IFS)

• Family Constellations

• and the Ecstatic Life Academy

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💛 I'd love to answer your question next!

If there's something you're navigating—whether it's motherhood, marriage, nervous system healing, feminine embodiment, relationships, boundaries, or anything else—send me a message on Instagram/Facebook at @nicoledesireegoff, or join us inside the Ecstatic Life Academy, where members can submit questions directly for future Q&A episodes.

Your question might be exactly what another woman needs to hear.

Biomechanics & Natural Movement: Returning to the Way Your Body Was Designed to Move with Deb Voisin

✨ Ready to reconnect with your body, regulate your nervous system, and move your emotions instead of storing them? Join me every Friday morning inside the Ecstatic Life Academy for our live online ecstatic dance sessions. Link below.

https://ecstaticlife.nicolegoffspeaks.com/communities/groups/ecstatic-life/home?invite=6a3495a873c6b88e6c3008c8 

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How I Manifested My Dream Life with Scripting, Aligned Action & Radical Responsibility

Ready to embody the woman you're becoming?

Join Ecstatic Life Academy, my online community for women who are ready to heal their nervous systems, reconnect with themselves, and create lives they genuinely love. Inside, you'll find weekly embodiment and nervous system healing practices, live ecstatic dances, community support, guest experts, and tools to help you move from surviving to thriving.

Learn more through the link below.

https://ecstaticlife.nicolegoffspeaks.com/communities/groups/ecstatic-life/home?invite=6a2c0d85059338737afbe801 

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Have you ever looked around at your life and wondered, How did I get here? And more importantly... How do I create something different?

In this solo episode of The Ecstatic Life Podcast, I share my personal journey of using manifestation, scripting, aligned action, and radical responsibility to transform my life from one that felt overwhelming and limiting into one that feels deeply aligned with my desires and purpose.

I open up about a season when my husband, five children, and I were living in a small two-bedroom single-wide trailer while managing a demanding homestead and pouring countless volunteer hours into multiple nonprofits. Burnout, resentment, and challenges in my marriage forced me to take an honest look at my life—and my role in creating it.

Through coaching, self-reflection, and manifestation practices, I learned how to move out of victimhood and reclaim my power. I share how scripting helped me manifest the empowering births I desired, a beautiful two-story lake house for my family, and the courage to finally pursue my dreams of coaching, writing, and podcasting.

In this episode, you'll learn:

✨ What manifestation really is (and what it isn't)
✨ Why radical responsibility is essential for creating change
✨ How scripting helped me clarify and call in my desires
✨ The power of writing in present-tense "I am" statements
✨ Why embodying the emotions of your future self matters
✨ The role of aligned action and boundaries in manifestation
✨ How becoming a new version of yourself creates new results

I also share a special shout-out to manifestation coach Jocelyn Dawn and her EFT tapping-based Expand Method, which has been a powerful tool in my own growth journey.

If you're ready to stop waiting for life to happen to you and start consciously creating the life you desire, this episode is for you.

🎧 Listen now and begin stepping into the version of yourself who already has what she desires.

Connect with Nicole

🌿 Website: nicolegoffspeaks.com
📸 Instagram: @nicoledesireegoff

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Ready for Your Next Step?

If you're feeling disconnected from yourself, burnt out in your marriage, or wondering where the woman you used to be went, start with my 5-Day Self-Care Reset.

For just $7, you'll receive five simple days of guided practices designed to help you reconnect with yourself, regulate your nervous system, reclaim your power, and begin creating the life—and relationship—you truly desire.

Because manifesting your dream marriage doesn't begin with changing someone else. It begins with coming home to yourself.

Grab the reset through the link below.

https://www.nicolegoffspeaks.com/5-day-reset-sign-up-page 

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Other episodes mentioned in this podcast:

Manifestation & EFT w/Jocelyn Dawn: https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-dx62z-19b7994

Self-care & Marriage Healing: https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-etqsz-1977a32 & https://nicolegoffspeaks.podbean.com/e/how-self-care-restores-desire-intimacy-connection-in-marriage/ 

Home Birth: https://nicolegoffspeaks.podbean.com/e/sovereign-home-birth-how-reclaiming-my-power-in-childbirth-rewrote-my-life/ 

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Learn more about Jocelyn Dawn:

https://www.thejocelyndawn.com/

Navigating the Messy Middle: Identity Shifts, Nervous System Healing & Authentic Self-Expression with Lauren Courtney

Before we dive in, I want to invite you to come dance with me inside Ecstatic Life Academy. Each week we gather for nervous system healing, embodiment practices, and live ecstatic dance—a space to reconnect with yourself, move what needs moving, and remember who you are beneath the noise of everyday life.

 

This week's podcast conversation is such a fun, juicy one.

I sat down with Lauren Courtney, author of Glow Up Your Chakras and founder of Lauren Courtney Heals, for a deeply honest conversation about what it means to navigate the messy middle of transformation—that tender, uncomfortable space where you've outgrown who you were, but haven't quite become who you're becoming.

Together, we explore identity shifts, authentic self-expression, nervous system healing, shame, sexuality, embodiment, and the courage it takes to let yourself be fully seen.

Lauren shares her remarkable healing journey—from years of ADD medication, multiple jaw surgeries, painkillers, cannabis, and alcohol use, to periods of complete abstinence and eventually finding a healthier, more conscious relationship with her own healing and recovery. We talk about mediumship, boundaries, the spirit-side of blackout drinking, and the nuanced reality of healing outside of black-and-white thinking.

One of the most fascinating parts of our conversation centers around Lauren's late diagnosis of a tongue-tie and the profound impact it had on her breath, nervous system regulation, vagus nerve function, pelvic floor connection, and overall embodiment.

We also dive into somatic healing, ecstatic dance, being witnessed in our truth, the stories we tell ourselves, and how simple shifts in language—from "I have to" to "I get to"—can completely transform our experience of life.

If you're currently in a season of becoming, feeling the discomfort of change, or learning how to trust yourself more deeply, I think you'll find a lot to resonate with in this conversation.

And if Lauren's story and approach speak to you, I highly encourage you to explore her work and upcoming offers:

Insta: https://www.instagram.com/iamlaurencourtney/

Website: https://www.laurencourtneyheals.com/

And if you're here before Summer 2026, join her summer camp for the soul: https://www.laurencourtneyheals.com/backtothebasics 

From Corporate Healthcare to Quantum Healing | Allison Anderson on Spiritual Awakening & Healing

Before we dive in, I want to invite you into Ecstatic Life Academy — my online sanctuary for healing, nervous system regulation, embodiment and a more ecstatic way of living. If you’ve been longing for a space to soften, unravel, heal, dance, breathe, and come home to yourself… this is your invitation.

In this deeply expansive episode of the Ecstatic Life Podcast, I sit down with Allison “Allie” Anderson — a Long Island-based holistic nurse, intuitive psychic medium, trance channeler, and Reiki master — for a conversation that moves through illness, awakening, intuition, death, healing, and what it truly means to reclaim your soul.

Allie shares her powerful journey from the intensity of ER nursing and pharmaceutical dependence into the world of holistic healing and spiritual work. We talk about years of unexplained illness, misdiagnoses, emotional collapse, and the terrifying near-death medical crisis that ultimately became the catalyst for her awakening.

This conversation is raw, mystical, grounded, and deeply human.

We explore:
✨ Out-of-body experiences and spiritual awakening
✨ Leaving corporate healthcare after witnessing profit-driven priorities
✨ Religious shame and reclaiming intuition
✨ Meditation, Reiki, trance channeling, and quantum healing
✨ Akashic work and psychedelic integration
✨ Learning to live from love instead of fear
✨ Shedding shame, reconnecting with truth, and evolving consciously

There’s something especially powerful about hearing from women who walked straight through the fire and emerged remembering who they were all along. Allie’s story is one of radical unraveling and reclamation — and I know so many of you will see pieces of yourselves reflected in it.

This episode is for the women questioning everything.
The healers.
The burnt-out caretakers.
The spiritually curious.
The women learning to trust the whispers of their own inner knowing again.

And honestly? It’s a reminder that sometimes the breakdown really is the portal. The sacred demolition before the rebirth.

If this conversation resonates, share it with someone you love, leave a review, and come connect with me over on Instagram/Facebook at @nicoledesireegoff.

And be sure to follow Allie (Embrace the Face) to explore all the magic she’s creating in the world: 

IG: https://www.instagram.com/embrace.the.face?igsh=anBxY2RqMDNybnJ3&utm_source=qr

FB: https://www.facebook.com/allison.anderson.102 

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracetheface?_r=1&_t=ZP-96klKjquC2J

YouTube: https://youtube.com/@embracetheface?si=_oYMhXgJtChsR7WY

Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/04j1bubb308QbgWgh0TlIf?si=tMHzGU4lRwmGGzlnHn4l9Q

Movement as Medicine: Ecstatic Dance & Trauma Healing

There are some things in life that don’t just become practices… they become home. Ecstatic dance is one of those things for me. In this solo episode, I’m sharing why dance has become one of the deepest pillars of my healing, my embodiment, and honestly, the heartbeat of my work and my life.

I take you back through my own journey—from being a little girl who felt most alive moving freely, to navigating PTSD, dissociation, and the aftermath of sexual trauma. Long before I had language for “somatic healing,” dance was quietly becoming my medicine. When stillness felt impossible and traditional meditation made me want to crawl out of my skin, movement gave me a way back into my body.

I share how I moved from the club scene into safer, sober dance spaces like swing and contra dancing, and eventually stumbled into ecstatic dance through what felt like pure synchronicity during one of the most intense seasons of healing in my life. The moment I stepped into my first ecstatic dance, something inside me whispered: oh... I’m home.

I’m also pulling back the curtain on what actually happens inside an ecstatic dance container—what to expect, why we dance in silence, the role of consent, emotional release, shadow work, and why these spaces can become such powerful portals for healing, expression, and coming back to yourself.

And perhaps most beautifully, I share the story of the download that came through dance itself—the one that asked me to reimagine my entire brand and shift from Holistic Life into Ecstatic Life.

If you've ever felt disconnected from yourself, trapped in your head, carrying emotions you don’t know how to release, or simply craving more aliveness… this episode is for you.

✨ Join me at one of my in-person ecstatic dances in Gainesville or Melrose, or come move with me every Friday for our 30-minute online ecstatic dance inside Ecstatic Life Academy. https://ecstaticlife.nicolegoffspeaks.com/communities/groups/ecstatic-life/home?invite=6a1095e988b2d68dcdce8386 

Follow me @nicoledesireegoff for updates on all of my dance times and locations

Following the Pull: Travel, Intuition & Radical Life Pivots with Shailah Gulyas

Want to ecstatically dance with me every week? ✨ Join my community, the ⁠Ecstatic Life Academy⁠ for live ecstatic dances and other weekly somatic experiences!

What if life wasn’t meant to be squeezed into the same predictable script? What if your family could press pause, pack a few bags, and create an entirely different rhythm of living?

In this episode, I sit down with Shailah Gulyas—host of the Pivot Life Podcast, host of Growing Up Gulyas, and a family travel + gap year specialist—to explore what it really looks like to travel the world with children and create a life beyond the conventional path.

We dive into the evolution of the “family gap year,” from traditional post–high school adventures to families choosing extended world travel while working remotely, homeschooling, and embracing alternative education. Shailah shares her family’s journey through traditional school, homeschooling, and distance learning across British Columbia, Costa Rica, and their upcoming stay in France.

We also explore the deeper why behind these big life pivots: how health scares and personal tragedy shifted her family’s priorities, the role manifestation and trust played in creating bold change, and the nuanced conversations around ethical travel and tourism.

We talk about Shailah’s work helping families create intentional travel experiences, her passion for women’s pivot stories, and the beautiful reminder that sometimes the most meaningful education happens far beyond four walls.

Connect with Shailah:

✨ ⁠Growing Up Gulyas YouTube Channel⁠

✨ ⁠The Pivot Life Coaching & Resources⁠

✨ ⁠The Pivot Life Podcast on Spotify⁠

In this episode, we explore: • What a family gap year actually looks like • Traveling, homeschooling, and education abroad • Choosing aliveness after grief and health challenges • Manifestation, intuition, and major life pivots • Ethical considerations of long-term travel • Redefining what family life can be

If this conversation sparked something inside you—a desire for more freedom, more joy, or a deeper connection to the life you truly want—you don't have to navigate that journey alone.

✨ Join my community, the ⁠Ecstatic Life Academy⁠ — a space for women ready to reclaim themselves, create more intention, and build an ecstatic life from the inside out. I’d love to have you there.

 

Uncovering the Diamond: Deep Listening, Self-Trust & Emotional Healing

What happens when you spend three days being radically seen?

In this deeply personal solo episode, I’m sharing the raw, beautiful, and honestly disorienting aftermath of attending an immersive three-day foundational seminar with Satvatove — an experience centered around presence, deep listening, emotional openness, and uncovering what they call the “diamond self”: the truest essence beneath conditioning, coping, and performance.

I open up about the strange re-entry into everyday life after being held in such an intense container — the contrast between profound connection and the noise of motherhood, business, responsibilities, and everyday life. I share how learning the art of nonverbal presence and empathetic listening revealed just how often I rush to fix, rescue, advise, or spiritually bypass discomfort instead of simply staying open.

In this episode, I explore:

• The art of true space-holding
• Why most of us listen to respond instead of listening to understand
• My realization that I often over-talk and unconsciously slip into a “savior” role
• How these teachings are already transforming my coaching, parenting, and marriage
• The challenge of staying emotionally open in uncomfortable moments
• The hidden identity patterns beneath chronic lateness and self-betrayal
• The difference between excuses and integrity
• Reintegration after deep transformational work

This episode is vulnerable, reflective, and full of the messy beauty that comes with real transformation. Not the polished Instagram version. The real shit. The kind that strips you down and asks who you really are beneath the roles, masks, and coping mechanisms.

If you’ve been craving deeper connection, emotional honesty, embodiment, or a more intimate relationship with yourself… this one will likely land in your bones.

Connect With Me

Inside Ecstatic Life Academy, I guide women through nervous system healing, feminine embodiment, emotional reclamation, and the kind of soul-level self-devotion that changes everything. We’ve also begun gathering weekly for online ecstatic dance — a sensual, liberating space to move energy, soften armor, awaken your body, and come home to yourself in the most delicious way.

• Instagram: @nicoledesireegoff
• Website: Nicole Goff Speaks